Siding with Our Enemies

Commentary by Dr. Ursula A. Falk


Anticipation  and  Reality

“Erstens kommt es anders, zweitens wie man denkt”

(First of all things are different, secondarily as we think) 


As children, we may have high hopes of what our future will be.  When we are young, we may believe that we can be a world famous scientist, a beautiful desirable model, a physician who can heal anyone and anything, an explorer, the president, and much more.  As we grow up we face what is needed to succeed in whatever we would like to be and what it means to be accomplished.  The work, the ability, the energy, the obligations,  the support, and the possibilities for that which we have chosen for our dream can become a reality.

We have to examine whether we have “what it takes” to succeed in our ambition.  Our brain, our brawn, our bodily state, our connections, and our personality all are important ingredients in whether we can or will be able to achieve our desire.  A five foot man cannot become a Harlem Globetrotter, an obese female will not become a model for size six bathing suits, nor will an individual  who is afraid of heights become a trapeze artist.

We as humans and especially as Jews have to be flexible in changing our goals when we learn that they are not attainable.  We have to be cognizant of what we can do and what is achievable and what is not.

We must recognize anti Semitism, avoid the “Rosches”, our naysayers, where and whenever possible.  On the other side, we must not ascribe every one of our own shortcomings to the prejudice of others.

Historically, we have been innocently labeled as “Christ Killers,” have been accused of baking Matzot with blood of Christian children and becoming wealthy through magic hallucinatory omnipotence.  Shakespeare and other writers have scapegoated us as Shylock, who had sacks of money begotten through theft and chicanery.

The blind hatred of others has bypassed our own worth, our endless scholars, healers, and competence as human beings who have achieved what they believed in and what they accomplished.  We have world famous physicians, inventors, and musicians/composers who achieved that which they worked for and much more.  Let us look at a few of these very special very famous Jewish people: There are endless musicians, actors, film producers, and more to name but a few:  Max Baer the boxer, Jason Alexander, the comedian, Saul Bellow, the author, Milton Berle, comedian, Sarah Bernhardt the world famous actress, Fanny Brice, Mel Brooks, George Burns, Eddie Cantor, Rene Dreyfus, the racing driver, Gregory Perelman, mathematician, Samuel Goldman, film producer.  There was  Jonas Salk, who saved innumerable children with his vaccine, the poet Heinrich Heine; Yehudi Menuin, the violinist, Sigmund Freud, the famous psychiatrist/psychoanalyst,  famous Rabbis, mathematicians, the world famous Albert  Einstein, who discovered/found the theory of relativity which led to many other and important findings.

 Unfortunately some of us have become self destructive, self haters.  There are fewer and fewer of us and our people.  There is intermarriage which the over “liberals” have accomplished, diminishing themselves, their religion and who they are.  Chinese partners are particularly “enjoyed” to prove the Jewish males important and liberal in their own eyes and those of their antagonists.  In addition, they have changed their religion to “Unitarian,” sometimes known as Jewnitarians, to atheists, agnostics, etc.  They may even praise their antagonists and join them in their blind hatred.  They may even go so far as to make a Jew out of a Mongolian by an artificial conversion.  They have so angrily denounced themselves that they deliberately eat “treyf” (non-kosher foods) like pork to prove their liberality and self hatred.  They will denounce their parents who have cherished and protected them. They want to prove and let  known their disgust of their ancestors to exhibit their self hatred, deny  their persona, their very  identity. These men join their antagonists and team up with those who openly detest them for the religion of their birth.  They will join hands, not with their brothers, but with their enemies.

Let us remember who we are, the “Chosen People”, the infinitesimal number that still exist, to stand up for our faith, our religion, our integrity, pride in our ancestors, our history, and our accomplishments. 


 Dr. Ursula A. Falk is a psychotherapist in private practice and the author of several books and articles.

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