Shul Psychopaths |
Is What We See Real? Are
Synagogue Boards Made Up of Insightful
Healthy People? Do
we get that which we see? BEWARE OF
DELUSIONS People
want to be seen, liked, and heard. They
want attention. Some get it by their
abilities, by becoming professionals that are important or unique, something we
the people need and are unable to do for ourselves.
A physician who can heal, a person who knows where to find what we need,
or someone who can give or do for us what is necessary or helpful, will always
attract notice. There are the doers,
the givers, the sincere, the kind, the knowledgeable.
Then there are those who want to be the important ones, such as the
presidents of organizations, or those who are different in order to receive
attention. Those are the people who already as children are the noticed
ones, not for their grades, but for the noise or behavior they exhibit, getting
attention by talking out loud when the teacher is speaking or dressing
differently. Adults also do similar
things. It is a pity when it happens
in a “house of worship.” Such a
person may become president of a synagogue or have some role that calls
attention to himself by “hook or by crook.”
Such folks exist in our midst and we must be aware to not be deluded.
They are folks who scream “me, me, me” and, unfortunately,
occasionally become the Hitlers in our midst.
There
is the woman with a title who wears a large multicolored hat, or some bright
outfit that is very different and causes her to be seen as she pushes her way to
the front of the alter in the synagogue as much as is possible.
Aside from this, she needs to domineer, and to “boss” others, who she
believes are underlings. She is no
longer working, and needs attention. One
example occurred in a synagogue not long ago.
She attacked a member in the hall by cursing her because she felt like
leaving her anger out on a person whom she disliked, and swore at her for being
in the hall to answer an emergency call. She crudely called this innocent highly
educated person a “fu----g whore.”
No one heard her except the
innocent victim. On the
“outside” she sent notices for people to give clothing to the poor,
to be good, kind, and just people, to love one another, etc.
This allegedly hard working woman for the poor is a very angry
person who attacks human beings who she believes are worthless.
As normal people, we must look closely at folks, analyze their motives, and be careful that there are no delusions. Psychopaths or Hitlerians are sometimes even in houses of worship. Lehitraot. Dr. Ursula A. Falk is a psychotherapist in private practice and the author of several books and articles, including The American Drug Culture (with Dr. Thomas S. Weinberg & Dr. Gerhard Falk, 2018). |